This is What to Wear on a First Date
You stare down into a dark void⸺it’s almost cavernous. You could hear your own echo if you shouted loud enough.
You step into the darkness, your heart begins to race. Your lip quivers as chills begin to run down your spine like a flowing river.
You gingerly reach out into the darkness to try and feel your way around. Every sense is heightened, every sound, every smell, every feeling. The fear of the unknown clutches at your beating heart.
You’re not sure where you are or where you’re going but the feeling of unease twists and ties your stomach into knots.
The beat of your heart hastens to a virtual tap dance, your breath becomes shallower and shallower with every passing second as you desperately try to find your way around.
“Got it!” You scream in exhilaration. Finally, you find the light switch to your wardrobe.
But the feeling of accomplishment is suddenly washed away by an incoming tide of anxiety. You quickly realize you still need to pick an outfit for your first date “Ahhhhhhhhh!”
A first date can be pretty scary on its own but deciding what to wear on a first date is a total nightmare.
Don’t worry though, we’ll figure this out together. Allow me to be your shining light in that dark void we call the dating game.
What Not to Wear on a First Date
First dates are nerve wracking, especially if you’ve never met the person face-to-face before, which is the case for most people in the age of Tinder and online dating. It’s enough to make you run away and hide underneath the covers.
Why? It’s the fear of the unknown.
If you allow it, your mind will play tricks on you and you’ll begin to ask yourself meaningless questions like should you shake hands when you first meet them? What if you run out of things to say? What if your date’s a complete psycho?! (That last one’s actually pretty legit)
The same thing can be said about choosing what to wear on your first date. There’s just so many questions about what to wear but it’s honestly not worth the energy.
Having said that, I think it would be a little bit rich for me to just tell you to stop thinking about these things. It’s a lot easier said than done. So, I figured instead it would be better if I help you answer a few of those questions by telling you what not to wear.
Don’t wear anything you’ve worn that week
Bustle says if you’re trying to make an impression, don’t wear that same pair of jeans you’ve been wearing to work all week. Odds are that you’ve stretched them out and they might have even started to collect an odor.
Instead of focussing on what labels you’re wearing or whether something’s in vogue, focus instead on the state of your clothing. Go for something that’s fresh and well-fitting.
It’s little details like these that can really help you make a good impression on a first date.
Don’t try too hard
Look, I know the whole point of this blog is to tell you how to look good on a first date but you shouldn’t actually invest that much time into it.
Founder and CEO of eFlirt Expert, Laurie Davis told The Fashion Spot that it’s the dates after that are more important.
Think about it, you might look amazing on your first date but if you don’t get a second date, your efforts were kind of wasted.
On the other hand, you could put just a little bit of effort into your outfit on the first date and then if there’s a second date, really show how interested you are by stepping it up a notch.
If your date sees that you’ve put more effort into your outfit the next time they see you, it gives them a pretty good indication of how you feel about them.
Don’t be too ambitious
This is a little bit of a carryover point from what I just talked about but less is always best on a first date.
Lauren Conrad told Lucky Magazine about her go-to date night outfit:
“I try to go pretty neutral, especially if it’s a first date. I’ll wear a black skirt or leather leggings and a white silk blouse. I skew a little nicer just to be safe, but I think black and white is always sexy, and I’ll do a fun lipstick to dress it up.”
The point is, keep it simple and don’t try to overthink things.
Don’t show too much skin
I’ve said it time and again, choose just one asset to show off. That goes for pretty much any occasion but especially for first dates.
Sexologist Nikki Goldstein told Yahoo:
“When it comes to being sexy and flashing some flesh, it's important to show one body part: legs, cleavage, shoulder, or back. Anything more and you run the risk of being viewed as trashy or too sexy. What message do you want to portray to your date, seductive sexy or bringing in all the men?”
Don’t make yourself uncomfortable
I don’t care what the occasion is, if you don’t dress comfortably you’re going to have a terrible time. And the last thing you want to be on a first date is uncomfortable.
You want to look welcoming and approachable, not like you’re stuck in a straight jacket. You shouldn’t feel like you have to suck everything in or constantly re-adjust yourself.
What to Wear on a First Date According to Science
The problem with deciding what to wear on a first date is that everything is subjective.
What you think looks good, your date might find abhorrent.
What you need is some objective science to guide you. Yes, a finely tuned formula that’s been through years of rigorous testing and so heavily scrutinized by peer reviewed studies that you can accurately choose the best first date outfit each and every time.
Well, it doesn’t exist. Sorry.
However, we do have a few studies that can help give us a few clues about how to attract men.
Red is seductive